It is true, indeed, that humility, patience, and the love of Him who sends us crosses, require that we should receive them without complaint; but see, my dearest daughter, there is a difference between telling one’s affliction and complaining of it…
This is what St. Teresa says; for it is not to complain, to tell one’s sickness; but to tell it with sighs, with groans, with many evidences of sorrow, is reprehensible.
-St. Francis de Sales
Prayer to Imitate the Suffering Christ
O Jesus, You have called me to suffer because You on Your part suffered for me, leaving me an example that I might follow. When You were insulted, You did not return the insult. When You were mistreated, You did not counter with threats but entrusted Yourself to the One Who judges justly. By Your wounds we are healed. Help me to imitate You in suffering. Let me break with sin by means of my sufferings, so that I may no longer live according to the lusts of sinners but according to the Will of the Father.
Since You Yourself have suffered and been tempted I know that You are able to bring aid to all who suffer and are tempted. I entrust myself to You and to the Father, my Creator, knowing that You will never fail me.